What Do Men and Women Want?

I was asked this question:  What do men want in a woman?

Well, first women need to figure out what they want for themselves.  Do you want a funny guy or serious guy?  Do you aim for deep pockets or a guy who is tightfisted with their money?  I assume this is the same process for men as well. 

After we both look past the physical requirements, what is it that we want and what is it that the opposite sex wants?  Here is the answer:

What someone else wants may not be the qualities you have so let’s start with what you offer.  Write a list or go over it in your mind the type of person you are.  Are you kind, bossy, control freak, submissive, aggressive, etc. and realize that is who you are and there is not much that can change that. 

Now let’s figure out what we want for ourselves.  Now this is the hard part since it changes from time to time.  We think we want one thing but that relationship didn’t work so we switch it up and try something new, but that too did not work.  Hmm…where do we go from here?  This is why it is hard to say what anyone wants. 

We can change who we are or change what we want but we will never be completely satisfied.  You know when you order a burger and you specifically ask for no onions, light mayo, and add the secret sauce and when you get that burger it has onions, tons of mayo and the secret sauce was not how you remembered it tasting – you get upset right?  So we try to take out the onions, scrap off the mayo and sauce but when you bite into it you still taste everything as if it were never modified.  Well, in some cases, just like that burger, we can alter ourselves but there is still some parts of who we are or who that other person is that can never be changed.

Let’s not try to alter ourselves too much but put out there what you got to offer and let that other person do the same.  In some ways, I believe that guys want what women want so if you want someone who is honest, spontaneous, and adventurous then find someone who wants the same thing so from the beginning you can see eye-to-eye.  If later you find some quality that does not sit well with you then scratch that quality off your list and re-order a new burger and hopefully they get it right the 2^nd or 3^rd or 4^th time.